13 Things That Happen In A Mature Relationship

By on September 29, 2016
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They say time heals. They also say it changes us in many ways. Sometimes, even to the extent where we may never recognise ourselves. But that’s not it, is it? In the same way we change, so do our relationships with our partner. From the butterflies in your tummy when they walk by to a time where you learn, compromise and accept them, even if they make you want to pull your hair out, your relationship has evolved to a mature one and you take things a lot more seriously. If you’re in this phase of your relationship, you’ll identify with these-

1. How your partner dresses up and looks has become the least of your concern
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There may have been many physical attributes to your partner you were attracted to when you first started dating. However, over time, appearances change – maybe the growth of an extra bulge on your love handle, a pot belly that never existed, a receding hair line that’s become a lot more evident or the enormous amount of body hair that you haven’t waxed in months. It really doesn’t matter much to you or your partner now and you tend to concentrate on the more important things in life. Besides, it somehow holds testimony to the love and difficulties you have been through together.

2. You understand your families play an important role in the success of your relationship

Your family has been through thick and thin with you, has brought you up to the person you are today and has had a huge place in your heart much before your partner arrived. Your partner has the same story to share as well. You understand to love your partner completely, you must also love and respect their family and be able to get along with them. You make a conscious effort in knowing them and it gives you no better joy, to know that you have succeeded in winning their hearts.

3. You face life as a team

Things may not have been running smoothly for you or your partner – you may have faced a layoff, could want to quit your job to follow your passion or face a life changing trauma. You, however, are there for each other and would never leave each other’s side, come what may. You’ll face life together as a team, period. You’re even ready to make constructive compromises for each other if needed.

4. You don’t give a damn about what society thinks of your partner

You realise no one knows your partner better than you do. You would fight for and defend them if anyone messes around with their ego, self-esteem or pride. If it calls for making them understand that you think they were wrong, you would never do it in public either. How your partner feels is what matters to you the most.

5. You understand how important it is to respect your partner’s dreams.

Your partner may have a million dreams – it could be as small as taking Latin dance classes with you or as big as taking a passion seriously or a world tour – no dream is too little that need not be perused. You realise and respect your partner’s dream and make every effort in making it a reality.

6. You get so accustomed to the funny noises of your partner, you actually miss these when they are not around

Those farts are almost queet now!

7. You realise and appreciate the need to spend time with your friends and family

During the honeymoon period of dating, you’ll spend almost all your time together in getting to know each other. You tend to spend barely any time with your girl gang,buddies, or your BFF – people who’ve been there to listen to and advise you, much before your partner came around. When that phase begins to fade and reality strikes in, you realise how important it is to strike a balance and to maintain other relationships as well.

8. You need time alone

The process of maintaining a relationship is beautiful and can be stressful at times. There comes a time when we need to streamline and de-stress – to slough off the excess and find our center. You long to be on a solo trip, read a book or socialise to explore yourself and your capabilities a lot more.

9. Relationships are not always lilies and butterflies. You need to work on it!

There has never been a better decision you’ve made than committing to your partner. You have had good and bad times. You understand on a rough road, you both must get out of your comfort zone and lay it straight – together. Talking it out and accepting each other is the key to getting through to the other side happy and content.

10. You are able to read through your partner’s silence.*Conditions Apply*

Though you’ll occasionally have fights with regard to this and may not agree to it completely, deep inside, you know that your relationship has grown gracefully and that you can literally read through each other eyes. Your partner just knows when you don’t feel good or when you’re elated without you speaking a word. The telepathy between both of you has scaled heights and beyond. This seems magical at times and amazes you to know you have grown to this point.

11. Change is inevitable

You are not the same person as you were at the beginning of your relationship and so neither is your partner. Maybe the same person who was romantic, showering you with gifts at a later point tends to forget your birthday. But you’ve learnt to laugh over silly matters and embrace the change.

12. Deep heartfelt conversations with your partner are more romantic than the best sex you’ve ever had

Because revealing your soul and being who you are is a lot more intriguing and mysterious than putting it out there.

13. You’ve become less clingy and maintain a low profile.

In a crux, life has definitely become an adventurous ride for you and your partner – with sugar and spice and everything nice, with changes you’ve embraced and love that can never be replaced.

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