Harvard Psychologist Reveals The First Couple Of Criteria People Judge You On

By on August 17, 2018

You often see people size you up in a matter of seconds, without a clue of what they might be thinking about you. Well, you may not know exactly what they might be thinking about you, this Harvard psychologist may have a clue as to what your thoughts may revolve around.

Think that your ‘dressing to impress’ or ‘cheesy smile on your face’ is something that will leave a long-lasting impression on others? But that’s not the case anymore, according to a Harvard psychologist Amy Cuddy.

The psychologist, Amy Cuddy, explained that when we meet someone, we ask ourselves two questions: Can I trust this person? And can I respect this person?
She says that when we raise these questions, it helps us measure a person’s warmth and competence. She further adds, “If someone you’re trying to influence doesn’t trust you, you’re not going to get very far; in fact, you might even elicit suspicion because you come across as manipulative.”

Cuddy is of the opinion that, “A warm, trustworthy person who is also strong elicits admiration, but only after you’ve established trust does your strength become a gift rather than a threat.”

Warmth and trustworthiness are more important than intelligence and talent when it comes to how people evaluate you.
“From an evolutionary perspective,” Cuddy says, “it is more crucial to our survival to know whether a person deserves our trust.”

Although competence is a highly valued trait, it only comes after you establish a certain trust with someone, says Cuddy. In fact, displaying too much of your strength can backfire on you.

However, these two should not be the only criteria to judge people.
According to a study done in 2017, it states that even physical appearance plays a significant role in judging people.

This study proved that when we judge people, we tend to use four cues, baby-faced, familiarity, fitness, and emotional resemblance. While we don’t have a control on all these four factors, fitness and the emotional resemblance is what we can always work on.

So, next time you meet someone, remember the chances are that instead of judging you on the colours you wear or firmness of your handshake, the will judge on the mentioned aspects.

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